Time To Retire That Myth
I was raised never to blame anyone else for my failures. If things didn’t work out the way I hoped or intended, well, suck it up and own it. I didn’t follow through, work hard enough, smart enough, long enough, plan, save, do the necessary, make the sacrifice, or pay sufficient attention. It was no one’s fault but my own if things went wrong or simply never came to fruition. Blaming someone else for your problems was the surest way to never succeed. If it doesn’t work out this time, start over, try again, slam your head against that wall until it caves in, but don’t quit and under no circumstances complain that forces are arrayed against you.
Every time I’ve been tempted to do a rant about the unfairness of any situation, that upbringing hauls me up short and makes it difficult, even when I know for a fact my failure was not my fault. Such things get in deep in the psyché, etch pathways, trenches, ruts that will not let me divest of the feeling of responsibility for a failure I had nothing to do with but still had to suffer.
I suspect most Americans have been infected with some version of that idea. It has its virtues. We work hard, we rarely quit, we harbor notions of boundless achievability. We think highly of ourselves and everyone knows a poor self-image can be deeply damaging. One might assume this is a component of our much-vaunted work ethic and maybe it is.
On the downside it makes us blind to real circumstances that do in fact hinder people. Especially Other People.
Congress is about to vote to repeal the Affordable Care Act. The senate already has. I doubt the house will fail to follow suit. Throughout the campaign last year we kept hearing that this was going to happen. Yet we elected the man who said he would do it. No no, his occasional “softening” of that position doesn’t count, because in no instance did Trump say he wouldn’t support it. More than that, we sent back to congress all the incumbents who said they would repeal it.
“Repeal and Replace” has been the mantra, but there is no replacement. There isn’t. How do I know? Because after seven years of listening to them complain we have heard nothing of such a thing. The GOP has had seven years to get their collective heads together and devise a replacement. Seven years. Nothing. Because they never intended to replace it. They just intended to repeal it.
You might say this is another give-away to the moneyed interests, but that’s too simple. The fact is, large segments of the health care industry have figured out how to make money under the ACA. There are now jobs at stake as well. It has become a substantial part of the economy. Just repealing it will raise everyone’s costs, damage parts of a now-working industry, and raise unemployment, and that’s before throwing millions of people off their health care and letting many of them die. This is sheerest negligence on their part.
Seven years and they could have hired experts to help them come up with a better plan. Seven years, we could have heard proposals, but all we got was a continual vow, a screed, that they wanted to repeal this horrible law. Seven years to devise an alternative, air it, meet with the industry that would have to work with it, get the public on their side, have a debate. Nothing.
This is presumably the way things are supposed to work here—you see something that doesn’t work right, come up with a better idea to replace it.
So why are they voting to repeal something which they have no replacement for? Something that actually benefits millions of Americans?
There is a video going around of a small business owner talking to Paul Ryan and defending “Obamacare” because without it he would have been dead. Unequivocal. Without the ACA he would have died. Ryan just keeps smiling that vacuous smile of his, like “I hear you and I’m glad you’re alive but it’s beside the point.”
What is that point?
That business owner didn’t deserve it.
Hold on a second, that’s kind of cold. Didn’t deserve it?
When you dig down deep into the driving myths that we use to define ourselves, yes, you find that in the mix. It has to do with that upbringing I talked about above. Your situation is no one else’s fault but your own.
There is no replacement for the ACA because the people voting to repeal it believe, deep down in that vast pool of American myth that informs who they think they are, that people without the means to pay for something should not have that something, whatever it is. You don’t—ever—give people things. It is just the nature of the universe that if they can’t find the resources within to step up and make enough money to have what they need, it is their fault, no one else’s, and therefore their situation is no one’s responsibility but their own. “I’m sorry, Mr. Independent Business Owner Who Had Cancer, but how is your misfortune my problem? You should have found a way to come up with the money to pay for good healthcare.”
Because blaming others for your failures is not American.
This is the only thing that makes sense. This is the only thing that explains the visceral and programmatic opposition to any social program designed to assist the less able, the disadvantaged, the underprivileged, the marginalized, the unlucky. They don’t want to do anything that appears to “give” something to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
Doesn’t deserve it. What does that actually mean?
If, as many of them claim, they are christians and look to god, then by their own philosophy none of us “deserve” anything. We should all be slowly dying in a pool of under-resourced misery. But then, the flip side of that is the charge that the more fortunate should be charitable to the less.
It would not surprise me to learn that most of those voting to take away the ACA support numerous charities and probably do so generously.
Here’s the thing. Charity like that, though, has never effectively addressed poverty. Some recipients of the charity manage to clamber up out of it, but most remain dependent.
They get what they deserve, perhaps, which is always less than enough to right their circumstances.
Because their poverty is no one’s fault but their own. They don’t deserve to be made…
To be made equal.
I’ll let that thought simmer for a while.
The bottom line is, there will be no replacement for the ACA. Replacing it would mean they accept responsibility for your inability to make enough money to buy your own health care. They will not accept that because doing so opens the possibility that they are responsible for a whole lot more social inequality than just low incomes and joblessness and the fact that resource manipulation is the primary tool of the wealthy. Because admitting to that responsibility would mean that a lot of people live in situations which are not their fault. In fact, are some one else’s fault.
That’s a can of worms they have no intention of opening, because, well, we’re Americans, and we make our own way, taking no hand-outs, accepting no one’s charity, and getting by on our own effort. Anyone who can’t manage just isn’t trying hard enough and that’s just not our fault. Or responsibility.
It’s a myth. It flies in the face of reality. And it’s time to have done with it.
For all you who voted for these people and may well lose your healthcare…well, in this case, it would seem this really was your fault.